Saturday, December 27, 2008

Christmas fun

Ah yes I am just about Apple certified to work on all versions of the MacBook. (In my house now there are an iBook G4, a MacBook Pro, and two of the new MacBooks.) I've upped the memory to 1 Gig in the iBook. I doubled the memory in my MacBook Pro to 4 Gigs. I replaced the hard drive in my MacBook Pro so now I have 320 GB of space instead of the 120 GB it came with.

I found this fantastic website called and they have the most amazing guides that show and tell you how to replace these things. Now if you aren't used to opening up computers this is not something I would try. If you do something wrong you could seriously damage your computer.

So I had to open up my MacBook Pro quite a few times, swapping the hard drives because I forgot to do a back up, then because I forgot the password to my Time Capsule. All in all it was a great experience because now I have absolutely no fears on opening up my computer. So it was much fun and I've learned soo much. So now it's like I have a totaly new computer. 4 Gigs of memory, and 320 GB hard drive. Sure it's only got a 2.2 GHz core 2 duo chip but the very new ones only have a 2.4 or 2.5.

I am very happy....I can wrench on a mac.

More to come....

Hugz to you all

Friday, December 19, 2008

Saturday, December 13, 2008

A christmas story......of another kind.

My dear friend Karen sent me this one and I'm reposting it here. It touches me on a deeper level because I remember the year I was the soldier on guard.

The embers glowed softly, and in their dim light,
I gazed round the room and I cherished the sight.
My wife was asleep, her head on my chest,
My daughter beside me, angelic in rest.
Outside the snow fell, a blanket of white,
Transforming the yard to a winter delight.

The sparkling lights in the tree I believe,
Completed the magic that was Christmas Eve.
My eyelids were heavy, my breathing was deep,
Secure and surrounded by love I would sleep.
In perfect contentment, or so it would seem,
So I slumbered, perhaps I started to dream.

The sound wasn't loud, and it wasn't too near,
But I opened my eyes when it tickled my ear.
Perhaps just a cough, I didn't quite know, Then the
sure sound of footsteps outside in the snow.
My soul gave a tremble, I struggled to hear,
And I crept to the door just to see who was near.

Standing out in the cold and the dark of the night,
A lone figure stood, his face weary and tight.
A soldier, I puzzled, some twenty years old,
Perhaps a Marine, huddled here in the cold.
Alone in the dark, he looked up and smiled,
Standing watch over me, and my wife and my child.

"What are you doing?" I asked without fear,
"Come in this moment, it's freezing out here!
Put down your pack, brush the snow from your sleeve,
You should be at home on a cold Christmas Eve!"
For barely a moment I saw his eyes shift,
Away from the cold and the snow blown in drifts…

To the window that danced with a warm fire's light
Then he sighed and he said, "Its really all right,
I'm out here by choice. I'm here every night.
"It's my duty to stand at the front of the line,
That separates you from the darkest of times.

No one had to ask or beg or implore me,
I'm proud to stand here like my fathers before me.
My Gramps died at ' Pearl on a day in December,"
Then he sighed, "That's a Christmas 'Gram always remembers."
My dad stood his watch in the jungles of ' Nam ',
And now it is my turn and so, here I am.

I've not seen my own son in more than a while,
But my wife sends me pictures, he's sure got her smile."
Then he bent and he carefully pulled from his bag,
The red, white, and blue... an American flag.
"I can live through the cold and the being alone,
Away from my family, my house and my home.

I can stand at my post through the rain and the sleet,
I can sleep in a foxhole with little to eat.
I can carry the weight of killing another,
Or lay down my life with my sister and brother..
Who stand at the front against any and all,
To ensure for all time that this flag will not fall.."

"So go back inside," he said, "harbor no fright,
Your family is waiting and I'll be all right."
"But isn't there something I can do, at the least,
"Give you money," I asked, "or prepare you a feast?
It seems all too little for all that you've done,
For being away from your wife and your son."

Then his eye welled a tear that held no regret,
"Just tell us you love us, and never forget.
To fight for our rights back at home while we're gone,
To stand your own watch, no matter how long.
For when we come home, either standing or dead,
To know you remember we fought and we bled.
Is payment enough, and with that we will trust,
That we mattered to you as you mattered to us."

PLEASE, would you do me the kind favor of sending this to as many
people as you can? Christmas will be coming soon and some credit is due to our
service men and women for our being able to celebrate these
festivities. Let's try in this small way to pay a tiny bit of what we owe. Make people
stop and think of our heroes, living and dead, who sacrificed themselves for us.

LCDR Jeff Giles, SC, USN
30th Naval Construction Regiment
OIC, Logistics Cell One
Al Taqqadum, Iraq

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Anniversary Blast

"I had a little bit too much." Can you say Lady GaGa doing a stage dive at the end of her set??? Can you say Cyndi Lauper dancing barefoot on stage?? Can you say "Damn that Morgan Page is a HOTTIE!!!" ?? Can you "make love like a stranger"?? Did you know that DJ Ajax makes it better??? Did you know that there is a former member of Destiny's Child that isn't Beyonce and has talent??? Did you see Kid Loose wrap up the night with a set on the main stage??

All this and more happened last night at the Energy Anniversary blast.

If you were not there you missed THE party of the year. It was hands down the best party Energy 92.7 has thrown. The flow was good, acts kept hitting the stage, and it was a great time. Part of it could have been that Julie was there. I was going through Julie withdrawal. We have too much fun when we hang out.

Ok gotta run...time for the No Tap tournament.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Turkey Day

So the day has begun. I got up at 7am after being out last night to get the ball rolling. Chopped up some celery, onion, garlic, fresh rosemary, and thyme for the stuffing. Mixed that all in with the unseasoned bread cubes, and then added about 4 cups of water and a melted stick of butter. Stirred that around to moisten the bread and mix it all together.

Got the bird ready (removed the neck and giblets etc) rinsed it out well and then stuffed the neck cavity and then the body. Put Thomas (the turkey) on the rack in the roasting pan and put him in the 325 degree oven. It was just a little after 8 am when that happened. Yeah doesn't take me too long to get stuff chopped up and ready for the stuffing. I always think it's gonna take longer than it does.

I made breakfast after getting the turkey in the oven. Ham steaks and scrambled eggs. I also made some Apricot cresent rolls. (simple.. super simple.) you take the Pilsbury cresent rolls (yes the tube of dough that you pop know what I mean) So you take some Apricot jelly (or whatever flavor jam/jelly you fancy) heat it up (you'll need about a half cup or so). Spread it on the triangle of dough, roll it up like normal and place on a cookie sheet. ( I would highly suggest putting some parchment paper on the sheet first. After you get them rolled up, brush them with an egg wash (should be egg white with a little water, I just beat a whole egg with a little water) and then sprinkle some sliced almonds or seasame seeds over the top. Bake them according to the package directions. ENJOY. (yeah it's a little bit of work, but the pay off is worth the effort.)

So the only two remaining things to cook today are the fresh green beans with bacon and almonds, and the Au Gratin potatoes. (Yes I do the potatoes from scratch.) The cheese sauce is the hardest part. As I remember I chop up an onion (somewhere between chopped and minced) saute the onion in EVOO or butter. Add flour to make a roux (cook the flour a little so you don't get that 'blah' taste) then add the cheese and milk. Cook over a med to low heat to melt the cheese and then thicken the sauce. Slice some potatoes put in a cassarole dish, pour the cheese sauce over and mix. Put in the oven and bake for 30 to 45 mins, until potatoes are cooked.

So now you know what I'm making. Yeah there will be left overs. Food is good.

I hope you are spending the day with family and/or friends. Enjoy the company and I hope you find reasons to give thanks on this day. I am thankful for my family, and all my friends. This past year has been a great one, making new friends and getting out of the house. Julie, Ian, Joey, Jenny, Matthew, Rik, Ajax, thanks for all the great nights and fun times. Brenda, Darrell, Blaine, Wyatt, Dani, thanks for the vacation memories. Everyone else who I forgot to mention thank you for the freindship and know you all are a part of my life.

Hugz to you all

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Days go by...

.. and still they fill up with activities. Long holiday weekend coming up and my 'down time' is filled with stuff to do. Kickin the long weekend off with DJ Matthew Baker and club 1220 in Walnut Creek on Wednesday night. Thursday is Turkey day and all the family, food, and football that goes along with it. Friday night... I won tickets to Nadia Ali at 1015 Folsom. Yeah I had no plans, but ended up being caller 7 tonight when Joey gave away the tickets. Saturday night is the Cafe with Joey V hosting, yeah he put me on the guestlist. So a busy weekend, but it's gonna be FUN.

Hangin out with friends is always a good thing. Going out and enjoying a night.. creating those memories... just having fun... Matthew Baker the fellow Pollack and one whose advice I follow. Joey, Ian, Julie.. good friends and good fun. ... ah so yeah you know what I'm talking about

Hugz to you all

Monday, November 24, 2008

Friday night

So it was a good weekend. Off to the city to meet Joey V for drinks before we headed off to the Cellar and DJ Ajax. There was much traffic going into the city and we left Vallejo around 8:30 pm or so.. Fought with the navigator and wound our way up to the Cellar. (takes us on a different route everytime.) Parked in our garage of choice (yeah there was prolly street parking, but I'm ok with paying for the garage.)

We thought AJax was up first (10p to midnight) but he was not there. The DJ (I so forgot his name, spins for another radio station) was pretty damn good. He did an 80's set like you wouldn't believe. We were having some fun. Drinks, dancing, counting to see if there would be more Madonna or Michael Jackson songs spun. (it was a tie at 4 each) Disco Bob and his wife were there. Ajax shows up and we run into him near the bar. So we all BS and Chris buys a round of drinks, gotta get the Birthday boy something!!

Midnight finally rolls around. Joey does his last duty and then splits. Disco Bob and his wife leave not long after. Chris and I hang out to catch Ajax's set. We make our way over towards the DJ booth when we were getting ready to head out, and it's like Ajax knew we were gonna go. He dives into his bag of tricks and I can't leave. It's just so much fun watching him work, and how the crowd reacts to some of his crazy cuts. (yeah I'm a people watcher from way back in the day) So we get in the flow and just have fun. At one point Ajax looks at me, puts his finger up and wham.. "DJ Ajax does it better"... yeah it's his personalized version of "Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger" I love it.

Finally it's time for me to get moving... I climb up in the DJ booth to say good bye to Ajax. The we make our way outta the club. Let me tell you the cool/cold air outside felt good. We made our way safely home and I fell into the bed.

So it was a good start to the weekend. I had told myself that Friday was gonna be fun, no drama kinda night, and it was. There was a friend who was gonna come along to the club, but he wasn't feeling well so decided to stay home. Around 10 pm he felt better and sent me a txt. Oh well I'm at the club now, catch you next time.

Speaking of next time......I caught a bulletin that DJ Matthew Baker posted over on Myspace. He'll be spinning at 1220 on Wednesday night. I guess I might have the little party to start the long weekend. I'll have to be good so I can get up in the morning and get the Bird into the oven on time.

Turkey day is a big one for me. I'm the chief cook here at my house. There is pleanty of work for me to do on that day. Turkey, stuffing, au gratin potatoes, mashed potatoes, etc.... Don't get me wrong I do love it... just tons of work to do on that day. Whatever your plans for that day I hope you travel safely, and enjoy the company of Family and Friends. Good Food, Good Drinks, and FOOTBALL!!!!

HUGZ to you all!!!!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Nadia Ali

Is this the voice of Joey V???

Nadia Ali- November 28th from Muna.Group on Vimeo.

Tis a voice over to remember.

A rainbow flag flying over the crowd at the Prop 8 protest.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Stuff and stuff

Not only do I LIKE this sign, but it hits a chord inside me. There have been times in the past where I've been told that I 'chose' to be gay.

It's not a choice people. I was born the way I am, you were born the way you are.

yeah... touchy as it is...

So there are so many things coming out of the Prop 8 dealio. The call to boycott businesses that donated to Prop 8. The realization of what a slippery slope it is when you vote away the rights of one group by a simple majority. The harsh spotlight turned upon this 'sacred' institution of marriage.

Let us leave those issues for awhile. (just things for you to think upon)

Friday night. This Friday, the Cellar nightclub in SF. Joey V will once again be there doing the host thing, and the DJ this week........DJ Ajax. (yes THE DJ Ajax of Cardio Radio FAME) (He'll get that joke, don't worry) To add to it all it is one of his 'official' birthday celebrations. So come on people let's get out there and have some fun. Yes there is a guestlist available at Energy's website, or you could call into Joey V (866-534-0927) when he's on air and see if he'll hook you up.

If you happen to be a 'Creepy Walnut Creek Stalker Fan' you need not apply.

So I'm working things out here. Getting ready for Turkey day. Yes I've got the bird, 17.6 lbs, and have the general idea for the rest of the meal. Home made AuGratin potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry sauce, etc. Got a week to pull it all together. Good food, good drinks, good FOOTBALL, and time with family.

Ok off with me.

HUGZ to you all!!!

Sunday, November 16, 2008


What a great day. Weather beautiful, friends, fellowship, commitment, work, etc.

Started the day heading out to the city and the protests over Prop 8. Parked near the station and walked down Market street to Civic center plaza. Found Joey, Jenny, Rik and Baby Bobby and spent our time there in solidarity with the crowd. We are united on our fight against Prop 8 and the various backers of said Proposition. I've posted many pictures on Myspace. There were some great signs and yes my favorite is "A recent vote shows that 52.5% of you are IDIOTS" (I'm not mentioning names, but for some reason Alice in Wonderland comes to mind.)

We left the protest site and headed off in search of food. Quiznos was settled upon, and since Joey/Jenny and Rik all parked at the station we headed to the one near the station. After a quick meal, then we wandered over to the station. Julie and Kid Loose were there and so we said our good bye's to Joey, Jenny and Bobby while Chris, Rik and I hung out with Kid Loose and Julie in studio for a little bit. We added content to Kid's show and basically had a great time. yeah the geek in me got a good fill of watching how 'Live' radio happens. How the calls into the station are edited, etc. How they know what will fit between songs. How the beds are added in while spots are going, etc. etc etc etc

Yes I love seeing the technology and realizing how complex this thing called radio really is.

Ok gotta run.. hope to get a pic or two up soon.

{***************} HUGZ to you all!!!!

Friday, November 14, 2008

where did he go??

Protest baby...that's what we're doing tomorrow. We are not going silent into that good night. (where did that line come from and why do I keep repeating it????) Anyway my role tomorrow is 'official photographer'. I will have the camera at the ready, and am going to get some great shots while there.

It is hard to imagine that I will be there in the middle of something more than the sum of it's parts. Can you actually 'feel' history when it's being made???

So sleep for me tonight, then the city tomorrow. The off to Sac and help my niece move.

More to follow......

{********************} Hugz to you all

Friday, November 7, 2008

I can't say it any better

So I will not even try to say it any other way. The following is an article from the HRC. Please read it, think about it, no matter where you may live in this country.

Op-Ed from Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese on Defeat of Proposition 8

You can't take this away from me: Proposition 8 broke our hearts, but it did not end our fight.

Like many in our movement, I found myself in Southern California last weekend. There, I had the opportunity to speak with a man who said that Proposition 8 completely changed the way he saw his own neighborhood. Every "Yes on 8" sign was a slap. For this man, for me, for the 18,000 couples who married in California, to LGBT people and the people who love us, its passage was worse than a slap in the face. It was nothing short of heartbreaking.

But it is not the end. Fifty-two percent of the voters of California voted to deny us our equality on Tuesday, but they did not vote our families or the power of our love out of existence; they did not vote us away.

As free and equal human beings, we were born with the right to equal families. The courts did not give us this right—they simply recognized it. And although California has ceased to grant us marriage licenses, our rights are not subject to anyone's approval. We will keep fighting for them. They are as real and as enduring as the love that moves us to form families in the first place. There are many roads to marriage equality, and no single roadblock will prevent us from ultimately getting there.

And yet there is no denying, as we pick ourselves up after losing this most recent, hard-fought battle, that we've been injured, many of us by neighbors who claim to respect us.

By the same token, we know that we are moving in the right direction. In 2000, California voters passed Proposition 22 by a margin of 61.4% to 38.6%. On Tuesday, fully 48% of Californians rejected Proposition 8. It wasn't enough, but it was a massive shift. Nationally, although two other anti-marriage ballot measures won, Connecticut defeated an effort to hold a constitutional convention ending marriage, New York's state legislature gained the seats necessary to consider a marriage law, and FMA architect Marilyn Musgrave lost her seat in Congress. We also elected a president who supports protecting the entire community from discrimination and who opposes discriminatory amendments.

Yet on Proposition 8 we lost at the ballot box, and I think that says something about this middle place where we find ourselves at this moment. In 2003, twelve states still had sodomy laws on the books, and only one state had civil unions. Four years ago, marriage was used to rile up a right-wing base, and we were branded as a bigger threat than terrorism. In 2008, most people know that we are not a threat. Proposition 8 did not result from a popular groundswell of opposition to our rights, but was the work of a small core of people who fought to get it on the ballot. The anti-LGBT message didn't rally people to the polls, but unfortunately when people got to the polls, too many of them had no problem with hurting us. Faced with an economy in turmoil and two wars, most Californians didn't choose the culture war. But faced with the question—brought to them by a small cadre of anti-LGBT hardliners – of whether our families should be treated differently from theirs, too many said yes.

But even before we do the hard work of deconstructing this campaign and readying for the future, it's clear to me that our continuing mandate is to show our neighbors who we are.

Justice Lewis Powell was the swing vote in Bowers, the case that upheld Georgia's sodomy law and that was reversed by Lawrence v. Texas five years ago. When Bowers was pending, Powell told one of his clerks "I don't believe I've ever met a homosexual." Ironically, that clerk was gay, and had never come out to the Justice. A decade later, Powell admitted his vote to uphold Georgia's sodomy law was a mistake.

Everything we've learned points to one simple fact: people who know us are more likely to support our equality.

In recent years, I've been delivering this positive message: tell your story. Share who you are. And in fact, as our families become more familiar, support for us increases. But make no mistake: I do not think we have to audition for equality. Rather, I believe that each and every one of us who has been hurt by this hateful ballot measure, and each and every one of us who is still fighting to be equal, has to confront the neighbors who hurt us. We have to say to the man with the Yes on 8 sign—you disrespected my humanity, and I am not giving you a pass. I am not giving you a pass for explaining that you tolerate me, while at the same time denying that my family has a right to exist. I do not give you permission to say you have me as a "gay friend" when you cast a vote against my family, and my rights.

Wherever you are, tell a neighbor what the California Supreme Court so wisely affirmed: that you are equal, you are human, and that being denied equality harms you materially. Although I, like our whole community, am shaken by Prop 8's passage, I am not yet ready to believe that anyone who knows us as human beings and understands what is at stake would consciously vote to harm us.

This is not over. In California, our legal rights have been lost, but our human rights endure, and we will continue to fight for them.

I will not go silently into that good night. You DO not have my permission to call me your gay friend if you voted yes on Prop 8. That is not the kind of friend I want to have.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Join the fight

Looks like there are quite a few people that are not happy about Prop 8 and it's narrow victory. The next round of the fight has started. Counties in California bringing lawsuits against it. There is even a petition going around that you can sign.

Sign the Petition here

I say do whatever you can to ensure that all groups have the same rights in this great State of California.

To go on to other topics, check out that Obama. Damn he's not even taking the week off to enjoy his victory on Tuesday. He's busy forming his cabinet and consulting with his advisors. Enjoy the holiday season this year, cause we're gonna be busy after that. This country has some major work to do, and yes the tasks seem daunting now, just remember "Yes We Can". (Ok the chills run up and down my body when I typed that. We are on the edge of something major. It's the same kind of feeling I get when I'm working with my Tarot deck)

Ok cooking dinner.. Brats tonight... it's bowling night.

{******************} HUGZ to you all.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Ok so here we go....

Time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and get ready to face the next round. History was made last night, you cannot deny that fact. I would have liked that history to be the defeat of a proposition that changes the constitution of the State of California, and takes away one of my rights. Well you can't always get what you want (didn't the Rolling Stones tell me that YEARS ago???) Years ago Prop 22 passed with a 61% majority. Yesterday Prop 8 passed with a 52% majority. I want to say only 8 years have passed between the two propositions. Do you see what this means?? Yep we're closer than ever to getting there.

I have a feeling that come January 20th some major things will be changing. A new era is dawning in America. There is a shining light that is going to Washington and he's gonna get us on the right path. You know what struck me deeply in Obama's acceptance speech? It wasn't all "Look at how great I am" "I won, I won, I won", no it was quite different. It was "Look at what WE did." and a "Get ready boys and girls, cause we got some work to do." YES WE CAN.

I've never been so moved by any politician in my short time here on this planet. I remember some of Reagans' speeches, but I was in 9th or 10th grade. He had that talent to stir the American people and get them going in the direction he wanted. Barak Obama does the same thing. He touches everyone and makes us see that we need to pull this together and get going. He's not gonna put up with any BS either. He's stepping into one hell of a mess, but I think he's the only guy that could pull us out of this mess.

John McCain, what can you say about that man?? His speech last night was really amazing. If he had run his campaign the way he gave that speech, well I'm thinking things would have been totally different last night. He was gracious, and showing that spirit that truly always has been there. Had he gotten the nomination back in 2004 instead of Bush, well hard to say where we'd be but I'm pretty sure we wouldn't be in the situation we currently are in.

I took my day off, worked through my emotions, and am ready to face the new day. It was not easy, and I KNEW I wanted this one too much. The major questions need to be answered. What does the passing of Prop 8 mean to the thousands of couples that have been married from May til now?? Will their marriages be annuled? Where do we go now?? Now that the State Constitution is being amended to say that a Marriage is between one Man and one Woman ONLY, how do we fight this?

Will of the people?? 52% of the people maybe. What about the 48% that don't agree with that decision??? I thought we'd make it this time. I thought we'd defeat those that oppose us out of fear. Fear is more powerful than I thought. It must be a sad existance to live your life in FEAR. I can't do that. I live my life in the sun, and out, and without fear.

Get ready Boys and Girls, the work still lies ahead of us. At least we now have a leader that can show us the way.

{******************} HUGZ to you all!!!!

How can you ever fight this mindset???

This is why Prop 8 passed. (well it's not official yet, but the writing is on the wall) I recieved this message as a reply from someone after I sent a note thanking her for legislating one of my rights away. She is in a Domestic partnership with a man.


Barack is President, at least we have that bright spot. I truly think he can bring this country back together and get us on the right track.

{*******************} Hugz to you all.

Living in a bubble

I didn't know it. I guess when you are inside the bubble you don't know. You just assume that everyone OUTSIDE the bubble feels the same way you do. You don't know that you are surrounded by hate and intolerance and that you are a SECOND class citizen. You are NOT WORTHY of your LOVE, your LIFE being recognized.

FEAR won out over LOVE. It's a slap in the face, it's a punch in the gut. I am physically ill. I'm not even going in to work today. I could not face it nor handle it.

I want to be gracious, I want to not seem like a bitter old queen bitching here. It's official a RIGHT is being taken away from me. There is no way to be gracious in this situation. OUTRAGE is what I feel. I am angry, bitter, disappointed. The list is long.

It's 2008, and rights can be taken away from a huge slice of the population. If only there were a way that every gay and lesbian in the state of California could leave today. We obviously are not wanted here. If only we could uproot all of us and move away. Let the rest of California see the impact.

I am NOT directing this at all of my friends. I know you support me in every aspect of my life. I know so many of you that voted No on Prop 8, and I love you all for that. Please don't take this as an attack on YOU. It's my release for those that were so swayed by FEAR. I will grieve, I will try to recover, I will have some serious decisions to make.

What happens to all the marriages that have been preformed from April to now? They will all be made null and void??? Give me something and then take it away 6 months later. Do me a favor and don't give it to me at all.

{****************} Hugz to you all. I think we'll need alot of those in the coming months.

Monday, November 3, 2008


Shoot me cause it took this long.. it's been bouncing around in my head and I just couldn't get the details down correctly because of all the misinformation going on out there. The blur between State and Federal on Prop 8.

It is the battle of the word "Marriage". The people that support Prop 8 say the following: "
Though it would alter the state’s constitution, it would not alter domestic partnerships which under California Family Code SS 297.5 extends to same sex couples the same rights and responsibilities as married heterosexual couples" This is where the lie comes into play. We are NOT afforded the same rights and responsibilities as heterosexual couples.

So a man and a woman are married in the state of California, we'll make it a June wedding for poetic dressing. Come November the wife is offered a KILLER promotion at her work, however it does require them moving to South Carolina. The couple talk, take a trip out to see the area, and for Hubby to check out the chances for his employment, etc. They decide to move.

Let's use the same situation but this time make it a man and a man with their "Registered Domestic Partnership". They do the same things and make the same decision to move to South Carolina.

So what's the difference here?? If both have the same 'rights and responsibilities' whether it be called a 'marriage' or 'registered domestic partnership'. In South Carolina the Man and Woman are still Married and legally recognized as such. They have lost NOTHING. The Man and Man couple are not recognized as 'registered domestic partners' in South Carolina. They do not have the same rights as the heterosexual couple.

So in effect my equal rights and benefits are only good as long as I stay in California. To me that is NOT equal.

Yeah I know, and I did state, it's the separation between State and Federal laws. State says "It's not us it the Federal that is denying you the rights.", Federal says "We represent the will of the states, we'll change when they change." We're not standing for it. We've had enough. "As goes California, so goes the country" or so the saying goes...

Tomorrow is election day. History will be made no matter the outcome. Participate in the Democratic process. Get out there and VOTE.

HUGZ to you all.

Friday, October 24, 2008

When I grow up

Doll Domination... Pussycat Dolls...

The dance remix (no I don't know who did it) is KILLER. Then again I am a bpm junkie, you gotta get it up to 120 or more... (I'm kinda thinking that 127 bpm is like the ULTIMATE. Just fast enough to keep yo' ass moving, but not so fast that you've gotta be on speed to keep up.) Don't get me wrong there are a couple of songs that top out at 147 bpm and I LOVE them.. it's just not a sustainable level...

(intersting side note, I'm typing this blog, listening to Joey V, chatting with a friend on Yahoo messenger and doing the txt message thing with my nephew) Who says guys cannot multitask???

Ah yes Adam Cova doing the Earthquake mix. So sweet.. he does have some good skillz. He did win the first Ultimate DJ competition.

So the next big party is the Anniversary Blast 4. Energy 92.7 is throwing the party for the listeners. The line up is amazing... Cindy Lauper is headlining the whole event. It's gonna be a good night. All the usual energy DJ's will be doing their thing. (Ajax, Trevor, Kid Loose, Eddie Santana) The line up is varied on the acts, and more are being added. David Guetta is here this year and I'm psyched to catch his set. (hope Kid Loose isn't spinning at the same time) The party is being held at the Regency center, same as last year. I'll know many more people there this year, so it's gonna be a fun time. Even Fernando and Greg will prolly talk to me.

Ok so the title of this blog relates to not only the song that runs through my head, but also to a post a friend did over on Myspace. She posted a little something about if you only had one wish, what would you wish for??? yeah so you see how that one goes. The 'problem', she got her wish....but it's a good one. She wished to be happy.....and she is.

I haven't gotten to my wish yet. I know what I will wish for when I do get it. You all will know when I get it, and that's all I'm gonna say.

{*****************} Hugz to you all!!!!!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Life is ROUGH

Yes boys and girls we're gonna see how it is to live on that 'other side'. Life is rough even if you're in a 'comfortable' state. The following is the Police log that is printed in the Ark newspaper. (The Ark is the paper for Tiburon and Belvedere.) This is all true, I CAN NOT make this stuff up.


Hedge Hog: Oct 2nd, A Mercury Ave woman called to report that her neighbor had gone into her yard and cut down her rose bushes. She told police she was only reporting the incident so they would be aware of it.

Abra-Car-Dabra: Oct 3rd, a man called police because he was unable to locate his car after only one drink at a bar on Main Street. It was later determined that a towing company had picked up the car for being parked on private property. The man got the information necessary to recover his vehicle.

Reap What You Sew: Oct 4th, a Hacienda Drive woman called to report that there was sewage spilling into a residence on Benton Court. She said a plumbing company on the scene was requesting police confirmation for the spillage so that the city would pick up the bill.

Racket Club: Oct 5th, a man complained, as did several other citizens, about noixe coming from the Tiburon Peninsula Club (TPC) on Mar West Street. However, the TPC had a permit from the town to play loud music until 5 pm and all residents within 100 yards were notified.

Mad Money: Oct 6th, a man at a bank on Tiburon Blvd between Beach Road, and Mar West called the police because he felt that he was receiving bad service. The police spoke with the manager, who told police that the man was not a customer of the bank but wanted to cash a check. When the manager asked him to have a seat and wait for assistance, he bacme impatient, started to yell and refused to leave. Officers and the manager were able to resolve the problem.

Fishing for Change: Oct 3rd, a woman reported that her wallet was stolen from her bag while she was at a sushi restaurant in Strawberry Village. The Sheriff's Department investigated and found three suspects who appeared to have worked together in an organized theft of a wallet from a purse.

Little Bag Lost: Oct 4th, a Bay Vista Drive woman reported that she lost her black overnight bag containing expensive jewelry, her wallet and credit cards. She said she was unsure where she had lost the bag. A deputy took a report.

There you have it boys and girls, a glimpse of life on that other side of the rainbow. As you can see having money doesn't make life any easier. Some would say it's tougher.

I'll try to keep up on the police logs and maybe post these once a month or so. There are some funny ones.

I'll do something else tomorrow. Just wanted to take a little break from the serious stuff I've been doing. The races are tightening up, and dude I'm more nervous then I've been in awhile.

{******************} Hugz to you all!!!

Tuesday, October 21, 2008





In March 2000, California voters passed Proposition 22 to specify in state law that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California. In May 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that the statute enacted by Proposition 22 and other statutes that limit marriage to a relationship between a man and a woman violated the equal protection clause of the California Constitution. It also held that individuals of the same sex have the right to marry under the California Constitution. As a result of the ruling, marriage between individuals of the same sex is currently valid or recognized in the state.


This measure amends the California Constitution to specify that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California. As a result, notwithstanding the California Supreme Court ruling of May 2008, marriage would be limited to individuals of the opposite sex, and individuals of the same sex would not have the right to marry in California.


Because marriage between individuals of the same sex is currently valid in California, there would likely be an increase in spending on weddings by same-sex couples in California over the next few years. This would result in increased revenue, primarily sales tax revenue, to state and local governments.

By specifying that marriage between individuals of the same sex is not valid or recognized, this measure could result in revenue loss, mainly from sales taxes, to state and local governments. Over the next few years, this loss could potentially total in the several tens of millions of dollars. Over the long run, this measure would likely have little fiscal impact on state and local governments.

So there you have the exact text from the Ballot, and you have some other information. The striking thing to me is what is NOT included in this write up. All those little things that come along with this thing called Marriage that are NOT included in a 'Domestic Partnership'. You are married, your spouse gets into an accident on the commute to work. You rush off to the hospital to see them, they ask you who you are, you are their SPOUSE...wham, bam you are in to see them. If needed you can make the medical decisions for them, etc, etc.
Now same situation but when you get to the Hospital and they ask who you are, and you tell them you are the Domestic Partner of the injured... yeah well maybe durning normal visiting hours you could see your partner. Making a medical decision for them.....yeah only if you've previously got that paperwork signed and filed and the Hospital recognizes it. If not you could be left out in the cold.

There is no form that can be filled out, filed with the courts, etc that gives you the same rights as that Marriage License. It's not even 'separate but equal' because it's NOT EQUAL.

I know I keep saying that I've done this post and I'll leave it alone. I just cannot. It's too important to me. I have this dread in the pit of my stomach. Will the FEAR win?? It's been working for 8 years of W. Is the FEAR soo ingrained into people now that they can so easily be swayed like sheep?? If you notice in the wording of the proposition nowhere does is say that school curriculum will be changed. No where does it say anything about churches being forced to perform gay marriages. The 'Yes on 8' people have nothing but FEAR to use, and so they are.

So back to work for me. I didn't get anything out of the freezer before I left for work, so not sure what's gonna be for dinner. I do know that currently I am freezing so I'm thinking along the lines of something HOT. (Chili and cornbread, or some kind of soup and biscuits.) Nope didn't make the biscuits last night, so I could do that today.
{**********************} Hugz to you all!!!

Monday, October 20, 2008


OK so I'm figuring out this blogspot thing. I worked out how to post a pic on the last blog. (Yeah can you find me there in the pic???) So a little positive tip here, the election is two weeks away. I know that Politics is a topic where heated debate can happen. I'm pretty sure most of my friends know how I'm voting, or they can guess. I'll leave it on this one, the cadidate I'm voting for will make history if they are elected to office. (This would be the election where that statement can apply to all the candidates running.)

I must mention my Butterfly. I was very sad when she disappeared from Myspace with nary (I've always wanted to say that) a word as to where she went. As luck (we believe in luck, .......right????) would have it she has turned back up. I've been wanting to set up a blogspot for awhile but always too lazy. So my Butterfly turns back up and it's the catalyst I need to get this Blogspot thing going. (Doesn't hurt that I've got a Gmail account up and running.)

I know she reads my stuff, and sometimes it's easier doing this knowing that you have at least one person reading it. Yes it's still my place to do the 'brain dump'. It lets me vent, and explore things that I can't work out in my head. I see that people can leave comments (hint, hint) so the feedback is always great.

Dad had another procedure on his heart today. The Doctor thinks this should take care of alot of his problems. I'd go into details, but I honestly don't remember them accurately enough. Let's just say that he came through the procedure just fine and is home now to start the recovery. He can't bowl this week and I think that's got him a little bummed. I say rest and recover (and give me a week to get ready for him on the lanes.) and save his dollars. If he's not bowling this week he can't lose any money. LOL.

Ok I'm gonna go.. dinner is cooking (one I don't have to do alot of work on) Pork Tenderloin that's been marinated, and I'm doing a brown rice pilaf kinda thing. Green veggie to go with, I was thinking about biscuits, but not sure if I want to do the bit of work making them from scratch.

HUGZ to you all!!!!

Long weekend

Not the kind of weekend I like. It was a full one, but one day was work and the other was just decompressing/visiting my niece.

Saturday was the Tiburon Peninsula Children's Book Festival. (What you didn't hear about it??? Guess that's why you were not there.) Anyway the plans were very grand, and if more of a crowd had shown up... (yes the famous ... ) The highlight of the day for me was the guy from ILM who was the lead for Ironman did a talk/presentation on the effects, etc. It was a very cool presentation and a nice little glimpse into the world beyond what you see on the screen.

Clean up always takes longer than you think, and of course the volunteers always seem to either not show up or leave early. Being the District representative and the guy with the keys/alarm codes...I had to be there to the end.

So no 1220 and no Matthew Baker for me this weekend. He should be back there in two weeks so maybe I'll see him then. Hmm Matthew Baker spinning there on Halloween weekend...could be interesting. (I do not know if that is his schedule or not, so don't quote me.) My nephew came with me to Tiburon on Saturday cause I knew I needed some help grabbing tables. He was as dead as me at the end of it all, but I know I couldn't have done it without him.

I didn't get a chance to watch any football yesterday, but from the recaps this morning I didn't really miss anything. Other than Oakland winning over Brett Farve and the Jets. (I'm still tired from Saturday so I could have heard that wrong when I was driving in this morning) It sticks in my mind, so I'm not sure.

Gotta add a picture to this blog. (ok not sure that one worked, but we'll see.) Anyway as I was getting ready to leave the house this morning I checked Myspace and saw a bulletin from one of my friends. (Everyone is a friend on Myspace) It was "Vote YES on Prop 8" Kinda blew me away, I mean who in this day and age can actually be behind that proposition??? I read her little blurb and it truely did not make any sense to me. I replied using my friend Julie's comment on my blog from myspace. I haven't been able to check Myspace from work to see if I'll get a response or not.

It just goes to show that it's in no way a sure thing that Prop 8 will not pass. There is still much work to be done. Domestic partnership is NOT Marriage. The RIGHTS are not the same.

Why is it such a battle over the name?? "Marriage" If two men, or two women get married does it somehow diminish YOUR marriage?? What if it's an interacial marriage? Does that somehow take something away from YOU? Turn the situation around and for a moment think that Gay is the socially accepted thing and if you are straight then marriage is not legal. You could have a domestic partnership, but that would not provide you the same rights and benefits given to those that are MARRIED. How would you like it???

I'll let it go for now, the point has been made and sometimes you can't keep hitting a rock and expect it to suddenly become a tree.

More to come.... stay tuned to this blog...

HUGZ to you all!!!

Friday, October 17, 2008

No on Prop 8

Prop 8, the one that will take away the RIGHTS of people in the State of California. If Prop 8 passes it will remove the right of marriage from gay couples.

I'm not sure I'll ever get married, but I want to have that right.

I haven't done this blog because I can't keep it level. It's way too close to the bone here. How do I explain this?? It's something that straight (man and women) couples take for granted. It's something I took for granted growing up in this country. I was taught there is NOTHING that I cannot do. There is NOTHING that I could not become. Choose what you want and put the work and dedication and you can achieve ANY goal. That's the promise of this country. It doesn't matter your background, your education, etc. If you want it you can get it. It's not handed to you, you gotta work for it, you gotta earn it......but dammit something like Marriage should not be a battle ground.

I saw the best shirt at Castro Street fair.... a guy was wearing it and he passed by... "When do I get to vote on your marriage." Seriously... What's the latest statistic one in two marriages will end in divorce. (That is 50% for those of you that didn't do good in math class.) Seriously what is this so called "sacred" institution of Marriage?? If you don't even take it seriously... "til death do we part".... is there something in the hetro make up that doesn't get it????

My love somehow doesn't equal your love???

Can you explain this to me??

I do not get it......

All I know for sure is that if Prop 8 passes it's gonna be a huge blow for me. Why stay in California?? Why even stay in America??? I've served my country... I LOVE this country. I've gone to WAR for this country.

What do I get in return???

No on 8.... if you're a voter in California. I don't care about anything else you vote on. I don't care who you vote for President... just vote NO on 8.

{*************************} (I give you the energy I have, so you can return it 10 fold to me)
HUGZ to you all.....

Here I am

Ok so those of you that know my Myspace page you'll already know some of this stuff. Just bear with me cause I gotta give a little background about myself.

Hi!! Welcome to my blog. It's my space to rant about whatever I want. Yep I'm on Myspace (Click here) Yeah this is much cooler....fully functioning blog. That link thing is SWEET!!

Anyway I'm a guy, 40 (2008), white, gay, single... if you want more info, you gotta ask me. (I'll work out those details as I get to know this site.) Just a quickie here while dinner finishes cooking. (Pork and rice and not at all what you are thinking right now.)

Yeah I'm blogging over here cause Myspace is being my home of "Mobsters" and I've wanted to put a blog out that ANYONE can read. You don't have to be a member of the site. (Yeah Butterfly it's for you, and others)

I try to keep on the positive tip. I KNOW that if you put out POSITIVE, you get it back. Same for Negative. I'm on my own journey through this world, I've met others that help, some that hinder, but I know I've needed them all to get to this point. Lessons are to be learned, and there are no shortcuts.

So I'll end this now, and I'll do more later.

{************} My shot of energy to you.
HUGZ to you all!!!